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{June 15, 2012}   Her Cups Runneth Over

This is somewhat of a continuation with my last post “Talk it Out”. To continue on with why I finally confronted my friend, its basically because my cup ran over.

I could be taking this out of context seeing its a Biblical verse, so I apologize in advanced:

For those of you who don’t know that analogy, everyone has a cup that is slowly but surely filled with stress. Its a cup that no one else can see because most people bottle up their emotions and stress. This causes the water level in the cup to rise. and seeing as every cup has a certain amount of water to hold, eventually the cup will spill over.

Its what you choose to do when your cup spills over that will make all of your problems disappear or get worse. When your cup runs over and it spills, i see that as your breaking point. Everything is a mess and you just can’t deal with the stress anymore so you snap. When your cup is about to spill over and you pour it into another cup I see it as a symbol that you understand what your stress is and now you’re going to do something about it.

Now here’s the tricky part: What do you do with the new cup? Me talking to my friend about the slight problem I had resulted in me drinking the new cup. Why? Because I did what I felt like I needed to and I learned from that experience that its okay and I should tell people what’s wrong instead of keeping things inside. So drinking the water helps hydrate and rejuvenate my body, me drinking the water is a learning experience which i put back into my heart, soul, and brain.

However, if you have the new cup and you dump the water down the sink then you’re just pushing away your problem as if its nothing. Sure, you’re sparing your feelings for not wanting to hurt your friend but in the end your original cup is going to fill up with the same problem again but this time with much more water. So the danger of it spilling over is even more imminent.

So, when your cups are about to runneth over, what will you do? Let it spill, get a new cup and drink it, or get a new cup and dump it? Its up to you…

{June 15, 2012}   Talk it Out!

Okay, so recently I was feeling kinda neglected by a friend and I needed to tell her. I would have preferred to tell her to her face but I don’t have my license yet (I will get it this summer) so I wrote her a letter. It took her a full week to call so we could talk and that full week was one filled with worrying stomach aches and paranoia on my part. But we talked and everything turned out fine.

If you all have a problem with a friend just talk to them about it. Sure, you can talk to another good friend to get their opinion but its best if you confront them head on either by talking to them in person or even writing a letter. Doing it over the phone is only a good idea if the recipient of your letter calls you.

Even if things don’t work out the way you want to, its best that you talk it out. I talked with my friend and we fixed everything and we’re still friends. Don’t keep things bottled up inside and don’t turn your talk into an argument. Just calmly explain why you feel the way you feel and I’m sure things will work out.

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